The turning point
There is a point in your life where you meet the mountain so you speak.
Or you reach the fork in the road.
I like analogies if you haven’t already noticed. They help to frame or reframe the events in your life.
For some reason, right here, right now, in this moment I felt I have reached the turning point.
It’s not the end and it’s not the beginning but it is a turning point. You know you’re headed the right direction and you know which way to go.
See in life there are many many times where I have doubted myself. When doubt is present it’s extremely debilitating because not only are you not on the right track, you don’t even know where on the track you are.
This however, is a celebration. Of where you were and where you are about to head.
When you find something you love, you are called forth to do, it’s called finding yourself and your passion.
Helping and serving others is not only serving the people around you. You get a result too.
Little did I realise how much impact one person like me could make.
The thing is, you have to see it to believe it. Which means you have to act on your hopes, wishes, dreams.
You have to let it blossom and see it for yourself. Because you really won’t believe until you are in the moment feeling and experiencing it.
If you’re not quite there yet, that’s ok. Keep moving forward towards your goals. Keep manifesting. Keep visualising. Keep saying yes to the opportunities that lay before you.
Keep honouring yourself and your values. Keep getting closer to the things you want for yourself and your life.
Never ever give up. Keep trying. And trying. And trying.
And recognise when the doors open for you. Actually stop to smell the roses as they say. You have to acknowledge something is happening here that I just didn’t expect but it’s happening.
See if you don’t look yourself in the eye and say wow you did it, no one else is going to. No one else knows or realises just how much it took for you to finally be here.
It was a long bloody road. And the person you see in the mirror now is the real and true you. Nothing added. Nothing faked. Nothing hidden. No act.
Completely and utterly the real and true you. It feels naked, open and vulnerable but you know you have left no page unturned. You will know yourself to be you and you will be proud of exactly who and where you are - perfect or imperfect is perfect.
Here’s the other amazing thing. You have nothing to prove to anyone not even yourself. You are just being you and you realise you have so much to offer the world.
Just being you, you have value to provide. There is no needing to make it. No faking it til you make it anymore because you are authentic, calling a spade a spade. You are talking about the elephant in the room because it doesn’t serve anyone not to.
And now it’s time to recognise what is it.? What is the special quality you want to give away? You can try to give it away but you realise the right person at the right time has to be ready to receive.
I’m looking for leaders in this world. Leaders who are ready to change the world. Leaders who are ready to be coachable. Leaders who are continuously learning and transforming themselves. Leaders who turn themselves inside out every day to become the best version of themselves.
I want a team. Of people just like me who are ready to say yes to the enormity of a world that’s broken.
And it doesn’t mean the task is easy and it doesn’t mean I know where to start but this is what I want.
I’m only one person but I know you’ve been searching for more meaning in your life. It’s not about waiting anymore, it’s about creating, and it’s about saying yes.
There’s a place here where you will find yourself and in finding yourself, anything is possible.
The science of an upset
Equals an upset.
But if you can quickly distinguish this for yourself, you’ll still have to create a space of empathy for the second party in your conversation.
I’m talking about when things go pear shaped. When things don’t go quite right. That’s because you’re dealing with an upset. Either it’s your upset or someone else's.
Here’s the thing, when you are unaffected and you are clear minded, you can listen and hear for the undelivered communication. You can actually dismantle an upset through understanding an upset is the result of a thwarted intention, unfulfilled expectation. You can actually hear the unsaid and you can call upon these special powers of listening to address what is really going on.
But if you’re both in the throes of an upset, you’ll possibly have already pushed each others buttons and set off fight and flight mode from your terrible two days. Time out in the corner for you!
But no, in all seriousness. Stop. Pause. Breathe. Take yourself away and out of the conversation. You are in fight or flight mode and there is no room to create anything in this space.
You literally go in to some kind of cave man mode. I call it the Lion or Tiger. There is no room for common sense or logic or really any communication to transpire within this “gladiator one ready gladiator two ready” attack mode.
So when you listen, what you’re really doing is validating another persons feelings and experiences. Then you can begin to come up with solutions once the upset dissipates. There is no solution making within an upset though.
That would really get my goat up when wanting to express my feelings or experience but told to get over it or a bunch of solutions thrown at me. So validating someone’s feelings and experiences is about understanding exactly where they are. Empathy.
Here’s the thing. We’re so good at deescalating a situation perhaps in our work and business environment and for our children but why do we not apply the same skills for ourselves to deescalate our own situations?
I believe it’s because we need to learn how to harness that inner lion and tiger with our lion tamer or tiger tamer present. Conjure yourself up a figment of your imagination. The Lion and Tiger are just being exactly what they need to be to survive in nature. But you and I are human beings who apparently evolved from tearing one another part with our teeth in order to get what we want.
So the job of the tamer is to connect with the inner lion and tiger and simply say you’re not required here right now or even ever. See you have this untamed lion or tiger within just waiting to brawl because of an accumulation of moments where you didn’t get your way or things didn’t work out. But if you just consider you are in charge, you have a choice, you get to choose.
The science of an upset is to understand what makes up an upset and to dismantle it. To have empathy. To recreate the moment within the moment so you can have peace from within and have it radiate right from where you are.
Recreation or imagination whatever way works for you. Visualise how you want your life to be and so it will be.
The only thing in the way of you and what you really want for yourself and your life is you.
Life has peculiar ways of communicating to and with you.
I was at Park Run and out of nowhere something said to me it’s not about the outcome, the finish line, the time.
It’s about the journey, what did you pay attention to along the way? Did you listen to yourself and trust yourself? Did you ignore your own warning system?
It’s time to listen within, to the power within. It’s time to honour yourself as your SELF.
So today I decided to listen in more and quiet my thoughts and opinions, but open up more to my intuition and inner wisdom.
I opened up my heart, connected with others and made it a choice to be in other people’s worlds, to be interested, to be patient and kind with myself and consequently others too.
When I’m being present great things happen. I made a friend in someone without trying. I discovered things about people I had not before.
Sometimes the voice just comes to you. It’s your voice but you’ll know why it comes to you. There is something to be said. Something to be heard not just for your sake.
I have been on a journey of self discovery. Reading books as I come across them. Listening to wisdom from thousands of years. And writing what comes from within as I go along.
Yesterday was the second time I just couldn’t explain my emotions. I felt overwhelmed with the mask falling away. I felt open and vulnerable and willing to give up my facades.
It’s been 40 years of living this world thinking I was alone and navigating it on my own. Doing it on my own. When in fact I have been protected and guided all along. It’s the realisation of just how much control the inner voice can have over your experience of life.
Letting go. Let go. It finally happened I think.
Letting go of all that hasn’t served me. What hasn’t worked. The conversations about myself, about others, about the world that just don’t work.
Realising that I have had everything I need this whole time.
What happened next is remarkable and unbelievable but for me, it’s like I shook the coconut tree and the coconuts all fell down for me. A magic portal, a door opened, I found the treasure in the hidden cave and unsure how I just received it.
This is what happens when you trust yourself and put yourself out there. This is what happens when you act in service of the things you are most passionate about, most inspired by.
Everything shows up through this new perspective of yourself and your life.
I don’t know how I did it. I just did. I let go of my past well and truly and what that makes available is anything and everything. Anything is possible now. A blank canvas.
This is why I don’t have all the answers but that I can trust myself. I’m walking on the right travelator toward the destination of my dreams.
It’s your season if you say it is. You are on the court of your life if you say you are. You word is much more powerful than you know and if you use it like this you’ll be ok: I don’t have all the answers but I trust myself and the journey of my life.
In Australia we contemplate what it means to be Australian. For many nations right across the world, there is turmoil and suffering, first nations people versus the "arrivals".
There was a lot of assumptions made and a lot of judgement occuring. Unfortunately, that pattern of thinking still hasnt changed today, not in a way that I could vouch for every single human being on the planet and say yes they care about every single other person on the planet.
But the purpose of this blog, is to have a philosophical discussion. Its to try to think of ways to bridge the misunderstandings that have in some ways grown over time.
If I could just step in to both parties shoes for a minute, the thinking was like this:
The arrivals "We are discoverers who travelled from afar. We see land. We are safe. We have found a place to call home."
Im not sure at what point they discover inhabitants, but im guessing they were already convinced of the beauty of the land that lay before them they chose to battle for the land because war is all they knew.
First nations people "we are being invaded, this is not safe, this is our home, we are no longer safe in our home."
A community of families supporting one another, each family with its own dialect, each community with its own designation of language. Each region had its own identification. From a deep connection to land and country, I begin to imagine "how on earth our first nations people could face a league of men with weapons they had never seen before, being a people at peace and harmony with nature?"
We dont get taught Australian history. Not exactly the way it should be taught. It should be the truth. The whole truth. And nothing but the truth. We cant change history. But we can be the change now and moving in to the future. Its up to us to be the change.
Every single human being has the right to be, do and have. But we have built these frameworks that can widen the gap between privileged and non-privileged.
If you are someone with choice, you are privileged. You may still feel you are not as privileged as the next person but choice and the freedom to choose is my definition to empower me to cause and create change in the world so every child will one day experience the freedom to choose.
On this Australia Day it means to many wide and varying things and maybe just maybe we change the context and meaning of the day. Perhaps we need to commemorate the turmoil and suffering, perhaps its time to acknowledge and recognise the deep loss of the day.
While we (collective now) were not the invaders. You can understand the conflict of celebrating Australia Day, the day "the invaders" landed on Australia as discoverers and declared it theirs.
You can understand the hypocrisy of the way in which we treat refugees that arrive on our shores. Why are we (collective now) so determined to repeat the woes of our already past?
I dont have all the answers. I think a lot about what can be done to bridge culture and understanding.
I believe the key is our children and education. Our children and the next generations when they know their ancestors and can be told the truth. With no bias. They will make their own minds up about the world.
We are all brothers and sisters living on one planet. We have one life, one chance to make the difference we want to make.
Our people, when I say this I want to take ownership for the division, in our country - our people are everyone who lives in Australia right now, have made sacrifices and are suffering. When will we collectively say enough is enough, I take 100% responsibility for the mistakes of our ancestor invaders and also for the suffering of our ancestor first nations people.
Its time to heal our country. Time to take care of one another like never before. Time to listen. Time to be in eachother's worlds and really hear.
Its time for us to figure it out. We are a group of intelligent people who can surely figure this out?
Hi my name is Angela. I have loved writing since I was able to hold a pencil in my hand. I soon learnt I had a gift of connecting with my ancestors through writing before my 30th birthday.