This reminds me of the story of a fish who knows nothing of the experience of land. His turtle friend returns from the land, the fish asks all about the land but can't experience the land firsthand, for obvious reasons. The fish knows only the description of the land and decides dry land is nothing. Just because you've never experienced something, doesn't mean your perceptions will be correct. But although turtle knows what of the land, he also can't explain the experience of being on the land to the fish. The fish will just continue to believe land is nothing to his experience of the water.
You have lots of these stories playing in the background of your life.
You don’t realise they are already always there. Impacting your view on the world. Your perception of yourself and others around you.
When you see the story, you can give it a name and let it go as an old story. A story from your past that you’re letting go of right now in this present moment.
There’s no magic here. You’re choosing in every moment. You can choose to honour the old story or to let it go. In letting it go you’re not saying that something didn’t happen. You’re not saying that you’re going to forget what happened. You’re just saying the feelings attached to the what happened no longer need to rule your life.
So yesterday I made a conscious choice to let go of my story which I’m getting more clarity on “It doesn’t matter what I say, what I say doesn’t matter”. It’s just a decision and a choice. A declaration in the moment.
I am letting you go. You are now in the past. The past is in the past.
And what arose was extraordinary. I had more clarity. I had more creativity, more inspiration, more innovation and more humour, and lightheartedness.
I gave a coaching session and received a coaching session and at first I see I may not have been 100% present and all the way over there but I realised this is because I’m not honouring the voice in my head that says “it doesn’t matter what I say, what I say doesn’t matter”. I hit a bypass button and ignored it. Didn’t let it impact me,. Didn’t make up another story like “did I upset them, when I just kept talking, etc”
All human beings are leaders. Inside my old story the habit would be to people please and to stay small and not speak up, speak up with my truth.
And what worked for me was to open with that in my conversations with people. Be authentic, honest, truthful and raw but also be ready to realise I don’t know everything there is to know. Be humble and have humility and empathy.
I realised that I take things far too personally. So I’m letting that old story go too. I try to protect the people around me! Gosh what a burden on my shoulders. I try to protect all parties whether that’s leadership to team or team to leadership. Again that is part of the old story.
When I step out, and recognise all human beings are leaders. Then all humans have the capacity to let go of these old stories.
What it makes available is anything and everything. Unexpected things you couldn’t even imagine or visualise because why? Because you’ve never truly let them go before.
Hi my name is Angela. I have loved writing since I was able to hold a pencil in my hand. I soon learnt I had a gift of connecting with my ancestors through writing before my 30th birthday.