Transformation people see

What do I mean by this?

What I mean is that when you take yourself on and turn yourself out, people will see you differently. Not everyone will know exactly what they see differently but you will know.

I received three compliments yesterday. I don’t normally receive compliments like this. I’m normally the one complimenting others. I attribute the compliments to my new way of being, new way of showing up, declaring who I really am.

I have been looking at myself and my life for the past 5 months intentionally and actively working on myself. Looking internally to personally grow.

It’s been a roller coaster of feelings, thoughts and emotions but as they say I’m through the eye of the needle in more ways than one.

See, I had this view of myself before really being willing to look at myself that I’ve done this kind of work before, it will be a breeze etc personal growth journey what do you mean? I’ve done this stuff since I was a child. I’ve got this.

But it was in letting go of the control and asking for help and genuinely letting others in and have them be a contribution to me, is when I actually got traction.

See this view of yourself that you have is actually one slice of the pie. The who you really are is actually the pie! Yes, you’re only seeing one slice of the pie because you have these barriers, these filters, these blocks, patterns, programs that if and or when you’re ready to let go of, you will begin to see all the parts of you.

All the parts of you plus some. The plus some is when you can truly SEE yourself, you’ll SEE others.

When you go to the optometrist to get your eyes checked, and the optometrist issues you glasses, when you put those glasses on, you’ll see things you never saw before, you’ll see more clearly. Yes?

But if it never occurred to you to see an optometrist, and you had blurred vision, over time you would just accept the blurred vision and adjust? Yes?

Consider, that over the years many many times, and on multiple occasions you made up stories about yourself that have become the ways you see yourself, even though you are all the colours of the rainbow... right now you think you are only one two three colours and will actually say I can’t do this I can’t do that, I don’t know how, I couldn’t possibly, what if x y z, worse case scenario, what if, what if, what if...

What if your view of yourself is so skewed you never truly get to find out or know who you really are?

What if this whole time, through your whole life, it hasn’t been something external stopping you from getting what you want in your life?

What if this whole time, through your whole life, it’s been something internal stopping you from getting what you want in your life?

What if, I told you this whole time, through your whole life, there was definitely something missing....

Have a look and tell me what was missing? For you?

You might not be able to see it yet. We all have blind spots. They linger there because of the way we see ourselves.

When we are willing to be open to be willing to be curious, and put aside what we think we know about ourselves, then some amazing transformations can arrive.

It’s not easy. I’m stubborn. I’m headstrong. I’m loud. I’m extroverted. I’m a perfectionist. I want to be liked. I will speak up no matter the consequence. These are who I was before my personal growth journey. Notice the judgement within myself about myself?

There is nothing wrong here. The point is you are not fixed. You are not a fixed way of being. Nor a fixed set of things.

Who you are is a human BEING. You can create your ways of being not from stories from your past but from a space of nothing.

When you are willing to take yourself on and turn yourself out, you will bring yourself back to a space of nothing.

I’m forty. I’ve done reading books, I’ve done face to face seminars, been coached and given coaching in the sense of personal development. But what has actually made the genuine shift for me has been my access to this learning platform, mentors, community, my mum never giving up on me and sharing her own journey within the platform with me.

I was really willing to take myself on this time. And that’s why I know, you have the power to choose, to decide, to free yourself of the chains that have been holding you back from being the very best version yourself. You may have seen glimmers of it before. I did too. Those glimmers are who you really are.

My real access was saying yes to myself for once. Investing in myself has been the best decision I made. See I have a story called I’m not worthy. Do you know how hard it is to spend money on yourself when you have this kind of story?

I have transformed this. It wasn’t easy. All you have to be is willing. Willing to put aside what you think, what you know. Willing to take on a new view of life. A different perspective. Willing to believe in yourself, as that’s the secret to succeeding in this journey.