Imagine if you were able to transform moments in your life past, present and future where you have the capacity to honour yourself and whomever else is in the moment with you?
That’s the power of awakening.
Short and sweet for those of you who arrived here thinking I’ll have to read the whole blog before I’ll get to the punchline. Again that is another example of the power of awakening at work. I honour your time and if you have more time to keep reading then thank you for being here.
This journey we are on called life and living in this skin called being a human being was met with this question I’m sure by you, by some of you any way. What is the meaning of life? What is my life for? What is my true calling and purpose in life?
If you haven’t yet come to a point to ask these questions? Perhaps do you ask why is this happening? Or why is this happening to me? Or why is this always happening to me? When something didn’t go quite right or the way you thought it would have or could have?
Let me give you an example from my life where I believe my intentional journey began. This means I was consciously aware of the decisions and choices I was making to cause and create the results or outcomes in my life. And I visualised exactly what I wanted for my life.
The usual way things go is human beings love to disagree and we’re never satisfied with agreeing to disagree. On this occasion I took a big picture overview of what was going on in my household but beyond that I also looked at the intentions of each individual. We are all doing the very best we can from where we are. We are molded and shaped by our past. Our parents, our upbringing, the experiences that unfolded in our past are always there impacting our worldview.
Understanding this gave me an access to be empathetic not for my sake but empathetic for the sake of the other person. When you can say to yourself - it’s not about me, and genuinely mean it, you have found some kind of special access or key to unlocking the power of awakening.
It’s really not about me.
This experience I’m having right now is for this form or this body. But taking an eagle eyed view I can see it’s not about me. It never was and never is. I’m here for a purpose and that purpose was slowly unfolding for me right before my eyes. I’m here to serve the people around me - whomever comes in to my realm, my contact, becomes another someone I’m to watch over, observe, be connected with, have compassion for, have empathy for.
This person is hurting and has literally no one they can turn to.
Let me use an analogy and this actually happened. We were walking at our local park and came across a wounded and injured bird, it was flapping its wings but unable to launch. We could see it was shivering and scared. I told my kids we need try to help it without scaring it more. We needed to cover it over gently with material and pick it up, once it was covered over and we held it gently it appeared to calm. I was sharing my loving kindness energy and my way of being could only be described as calm, connected, caring. We found a box and put some holes in it and put the bird in there. We called a wildlife carer who then came to collect it.
The bird didn’t need to trust us. But because we approached it with loving kindness and our intention was pure. It allowed us to approach it.
This is the same hurt that was being experienced in my household which was the result of ongoing bickering and egos at play. Someone had to stop and be a leader in that moment. A leader is not a dictator. A leader is also not necessarily the one with all the answers either. They have a way of demonstrating their leadership through courage and serving others.
I stopped, paused and breathed and thought if this was me hurting or if this was the bird hurting what would I want someone to do? What would I do? What’s needed and wanted right now is loving kindness, compassion, empathy, forgiveness, love, caring for someone or something because I say so not because I have to, not because it’s the right thing to do, not because I’m told to do it. No it’s because I say so. I say so.
This is what I say will be and it will be. Because I say so. That’s the power of your word. Then you have to back it up by honouring your word. And you need integrity - the ease and grace to say even though I stuffed up in that moment, please forgive me and here’s my new promise or my new commitment.
I made a bold statement and whilst I didn’t know how to keep my promise, for the best part of as long as I’ve known since then, I have kept my promise. I am there for this person every single moment demonstrating my commitment to them even though I didn’t vow or declare.
I validate their feelings and their emotions. I try to search for the win win win win in all moments. A win for me a win for husband a win for mother in law a win for kids.
It’s not the same as being a people pleaser which is how I’ve related to myself for such a long time. Being able to take the higher ground, being able to foresee what is to come, there are patterns of behaviour that are predictable. Here they go again form
A and form B when will they ever realise or learn I say in my head. I leave them to it. Once the dust settles I have my say either one on one or all together to hopefully have them see they are both right and no one is wrong. There can be more than one right and no wrong.
There is nothing wrong here
Transforming your entire perception of things that arise to there is nothing wrong here is another access or key to unlocking the power of awakening.
There are so many actions and reactions - you almost need to come at your life as a watcher or and observer like being in a movie theatre watching it unfold.
If you can just relax in to it, watching it without any opinions, judgements or assessments and know that whatever is coming up is the right movie you’re watching and there is a lesson to learn here.
People come in to your life for a reason. And notice all of them because they are all significant and important in terms of your life journey.
Think of it like this sliding doors the movie she missed one train to hop on another, missing one set of doors she misses catching her partner cheating, in an alternative scene where she gets the train on time she catches her partner cheating and the story unfolds between these two story lines or possibilities of what her life looks like or could look like.
What if that person you say hi to every day was having a rough day - you said hi without even thinking about it, but for them it meant the world to them because you noticed them, you acknowledge them.
You have absolutely no idea the impact you have on another person until you ask them. But the point is you have unlocked another access or key to the power of awakening if you can do things for no other reason than for being in serve of the other person. It’s not about me.
Pending post I’ll be back with more soon I hope.
Hi my name is Angela. I have loved writing since I was able to hold a pencil in my hand. I soon learnt I had a gift of connecting with my ancestors through writing before my 30th birthday.