How you see yourself, how you see others?

Imagine if you recognised others instead as mirrors, as reflections of you.

How would life occur now? What would you do with this new information?

Just picture the object of a mirror. The mirror itself reflects the visual you.

People don’t reflect the visual you. When others are dealing with something, grappling with something, authentically sharing about the things that stop them in life, you will resonate with a part of their story, and you’ll see the very thing within yourself that has you stopped in the same way.

It might not come to you right away but whatever aspect that resonates with you most will speak to you and you’ll see access to a freedom from that which had you stopped before.

When you’re beginning a self discovery journey, a pathway called I’m willing to look within myself to work on myself and transform the things that don’t work for me or don’t work as well as I’d like them to in my life, then everything around you will begin to shift.

Imagine you were swimming one direction of the lap pool, kicked the end edge of the pool to turn, the water follows you doesn’t it?, there is some resistance at the turn at first, but once you get momentum, a flow, the water follows you?

In this way when you start to transform those things that don’t work for you, your journey involves bringing the people in your life along with you. At first, you are changing before their eyes. but it’s still you. At first, change can be painful.

Here’s the thing...

You should be becoming a better version of you, the best version of you.

But you do have to be honest with the people around you to let them know exactly what you’re doing and what you’re committed to such that they are touched, moved and inspired by your goal of transforming.

And you also have to be aware that you will still be human along this journey to transform yourself and your life. What I mean is you don’t just drop your ego just like that. Everything takes practice.

​When change is knocking at ego’s doorstep, ego will tantrum more, just like a child, who is going through the withdrawal symptoms of you no longer giving in to tantrums - the negative attention that the child thinks it wants.

So when our focus is on us, we can only see us. When our focus is on others, we see them but we also see ourselves through them. It’s tricky but ultimately have your focus over there with others and it will give you so much access to freedom.

You will have much more grace, forgiveness, compassion, empathy for another person than you will for yourself. You will see all the things the other person is capable of, even if they don’t see it for themselves! Your focus on others is a gift.

What will reflect back? Who knows? You need to start with knowing it’s about your transformation but then you need to finish knowing it’s not about you. A very strange concept but when you’re ready to learn more reach out. I’m always here for you.