First tip from Aladdin the Disney cartoon movie, “beeeeeeeee yourself”.
You create a space for fun by being yourself. It has taken me forty years to realise this so I’m not surprised if it might take you this whole article before you’ll at least consider giving this a go.
Children are wizards and masters at play and fun. That’s like their hidden addiction. Let’s play mum.
In many ways, having fun is also about letting go. Letting down your guard, pulling down your barriers, letting people in.
There is a vulnerability and a sense of transparency when you’re having fun. It’s usually very clear if you are having fun from the outside and on the inside your mind will be clear, you’ll be in the present moment, enjoying yourself!
If you have to try and remember: when was the last time I had fun then that’s a worry and we need to start inserting more fun in to your life, starting now!
Fun doesn’t mean fun at the expense of others. Fun for me means everyone can join in and feel comfortable and safe.
Also everyone has their own register of fun. But Im trying to think of the times when I haven’t had fun, it’s usually if I am in the company of others I have no love or affinity with.
Increase the love and affinity, increase the fun? How? I’m assuming you’re asking me this question right now. You have to get to know people beyond the surface conversation. Getting to know what drives, motivates, inspires a person is getting to the heart of them. You’ll soon realise you have much in common with them and you’ll create love and affinity. Not just people but you. Get to know you!
You don’t earn love and affinity, it’s a creation by you.
Well if we use that same theory for having fun then, it’s a creation by you!
In many ways it’s one of the first affirmations or intentions we put out to the universe without ever realising it. “I’m going to have fun”.
You forget that you say this, the minute you receive an invitation. By the way, I am a yes person which means I say yes to all invitations. You just have to invite me and I’ll say yes. By virtue of seeing an invitation and being a yes person is because I know I create my world. The minute I see an invitation my affirmation or intention “I’m going to have fun”, rises up automatically created by me but nonetheless because I’m so used to this new habit, it becomes lost in my thoughts and forgotten.
Until I get to the location where I remember “I’m going to have fun”. On second thought, I probably say it many times in the lead up to an event. Viewing the menu, “I’m going to have fun”, talking with others about it “I’m going to have fun”.
Where do I get this from? Is it nature or nurture. I think it’s influenced by my upbringing, my parents. Definitely. They were all about having fun growing up. Their fun literally was tearing up the dance floor. So if that’s not your kind of fun that’s ok, but what is? You have to know what fills your cup of fun by experimenting.
What activities fill my cup? Sitting under a tree? Watching the stars? Taking the dog for a walk? Playing with the cat? Watering the veggie garden? Going to the market to find more plants for home? Going for a run? Cooking or baking when you don’t have to? Reading a book? Taking a snooze?
There are some things you need to keep for yourself so that you can recharge and reenergise. It doesn’t mean you’re being selfish, especially if you can kill two birds with one stone - getting a chore done at the same time?!
You need to know what all of these things are. You need to make sure you glitter your week with the things that are going to keep you sane. Find them and voice them to your family or loved ones. I’m doing this, if you want to join or help you have to do it exactly as I show you how, ie silently and still. If you don’t want to join or help that’s ok but just know that I enjoy the silence of this activity so please don’t interrupt me. Set a timer or give them a time on the clock and put a do not disturb sign around your neck if you have to, especially if you’re still hanging around at home.
In the mornings I have a distinct ritual of quiet. I have to remind the children of this morning ritual everyday. I don’t know why, but I just love the silence of the mornings. By letting your loved ones know this about you, they’ll soon learn how to help keep you sane too.
When it’s time to insert fun - you’ll know exactly how and what to do now, because you’ve established a foundation for listening to what is important to others, what is important to you.
Having fun is not overrated. It’s just like brushing your teeth or hair. You have to insert a little fun in to your life, in any way you can. Life is too short not to. Remember when you were a kid? Imagine being that way now even as an adult. If other people can do it you can too. The only thing that got in the way was the burden of responsibility. If you could re distribute at least some of the burden, you can replace it with a bit of fun!!!!
Hi my name is Angela. I have loved writing since I was able to hold a pencil in my hand. I soon learnt I had a gift of connecting with my ancestors through writing before my 30th birthday.