How are you feeling? A fundamental question when you experience a breakdown

When you were a child, something happened, you got upset or sad and your parental figure did or didn’t do the right thing to help you to identify a way to resolve your pain on your own.

Likely, they did what most parents do and just give you a hug. Or what else did they do?

Over time, all the ways anyone thought they were helping you to resolve your pain, became your patterns and programming.

Imagine a world where when anyone experienced a breakdown we started with the fundamental question how are you feeling, recognising that the human being is capable, able and not lacking in anything to identify the source of their own pain and suffering?

Through communication, the child can identify how they are feeling and articulate themselves through words, expressing their emotions. Which later become the foundations of being able to express themselves in every moment.

How does an adult, essentially an aged child. A grown up do the work? When something happens now we over complicate it. Imagine if you were a child, how would you feel? Go there, ask your inner child how are you feeling? Let them get their words out, be the parental figure you wanted when you were a child, be open and willing to hear what your inner child has to say.

When you are truly listening you can help yourself heal. You just need to listen to him or her. Nothing added, no judgement, he or she will come out only when he or she feels safe, and he or she will come out for you or for anyone he or she feels safe with.

It is a truly privileged and remarkable moment to have with yourself. It’s even more so to be able to be a space for others.

How are you feeling?