It really doesn’t take much for you to listen to the critical voice in your head and then allow yourself to become disabled by it.
I know because I myself am challenged to watch and observe the micro decisions I make about myself on a daily basis.
Yesterday, something happened and I made it mean something about me. I began to question my own credibility and authority.
I basically lost touch with generating who I really am in the world for myself. I started to honour the little voice in my head.
What this does is has you question literally everything you do. You keep asking yourself questions that will lead you to the lurking critic within.
This is extremely dangerous and damaging. Your inner critic does not speak the truth that is a match for the present moment.
It is a version of you from past experiences when things didn’t work out and tries to process information from this past experience as opposed to assessing brand newly for this new experience.
Here is what you need to do.
Pause and reflect outside your own head.
Write it out / Speak it out - Keep a journal or have a trusted coach or mentor who can help you get out of your head about any conversation that doesn’t serve you.
Exercise - even taking a brisk walk in the moments after you feel stopped but make sure you focus your energy on the brisk walk as opposed to thinking more on what had you feel stopped in the first place.
Meditate - download a guided meditation, the Waking Up App is amazing for this. You only need ten focused minutes.
Distraction - literally any distraction from your thoughts will work whether that’s making yourself a cup of tea or coffee and really focussing your energies there, not far away off in your mind.
The moment when intuition and creativity arrives, you can be introspective about where your mind went that had you feel stopped or stuck but in a scientific way observing the pattern or the program at play.
Eventually you will have a list of commands or statements that you regularly make about yourself. None of these are true and not relevant to the present moment.
Take on a growth mindset that says "I’m open, willing, coachable and curious, im learning everyday about myself and about the things about me that aren’t working, where I feel stuck or stopped".
These are opportunities for real growth especially if you are rigorous with yourself.
Really stop and take a moment to think and be grateful for an amazing mind that can sometimes get its wires crossed.
Hi my name is Angela. I have loved writing since I was able to hold a pencil in my hand. I soon learnt I had a gift of connecting with my ancestors through writing before my 30th birthday.